Relationships are such a challenge for life tends to pull us in many directions at the same time. To master these challenges one needs to understand self. It’s surprising how many of us go through life without ever recognizing that our feelings toward other people are largely determined by our feelings toward ourselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.
Often the purpose of relationships is not just about happiness, but transformation too. Our personality feels the need to be unique and special and so our focus lies on how we are different from others. Differences hold the potential to create conflict rather than allowing, understanding and respect.
At the same time, our souls live through connection with others. Daily we are challenged to rise above our personal preferences to discover how we and the other are the same and yet different in our uniqueness. Our overall need lies in balancing these two tendencies.