To be ‘beautiful’, you must be who you are. For who you are is far more interesting, vital, and attractive than anything or anyone you might pretend to be. This is a fact that, sadly, is often forgotten. For we live in a world which teaches us; however unwittingly, that whatever we are is not as good as what we should, could, or might be. It also tells us that we need someone or something else outside ourselves to give our lives meaning.
The media are full of programs, articles, advertisements, and imperatives that urge you to "be a better lover," "wear this fashion," "build a better kitchen or house," “Drive a bigger car” or that purport to tell you how to look more sexy, be more assertive, make your life work, and so forth.
It is all an amazing game which works very well. It keeps selling clothes, books, and automobiles because it keeps people wanting. The only problem is that in the process it also creates an enormous amount of misery and dissatisfaction as people continue to look outside themselves for yardsticks to measure themselves by. This is because, no matter how well it works, the "want-need-get" game obscures one really important truth: that what you need to be complete, beautiful, healthy, happy, and fulfilled is not "out there," "one day," or "if I only had …," it is already here – inside you – right now. It does not need to be bought, sought, seduced, or copied. It simply needs to be discovered within you and then lived. That is where an awareness of the Self – the particular individual you are physically, mentally, and emotionally – comes in.